The fact that there are bumps on a road does not mean it will not take you to your destination. In fact; rough roads are normally safer.
During the good times, we hardly see danger coming, we indulge and make merry like there’s no tomorrow, we even forget those who helped us during the bad times. We forget debts we had, the long nights and the hunger pants.
Then the stars dim and life begins to scare us, uncertainties, worries come and stress starts to set in.
Damn, how did we get here? How could we not see it coming? Life sucks!!
Remember what I told you in the beginning… life is a journey.
Seasons come and go and waking up to the fact that seasons are just what they are… seasons. This will help you stay armed.
There’s no such thing as 100% preparation for when disaster strikes but there’s a preparation which only you can determine the percentage.
We have options that we can take, insurance being one of them. Please stay with me, am just about to get to the main course of this article.
Let me talk about insurance briefly; insurance is buying peace of mind, that’s according to my gospel. You pay prior so that when you get into trouble, the insurance takes care of you. In case you don’t get into trouble, thank God and feel good that you did not stay awake worrying and hoping that trouble will not come.
There are other types of preparation like saving; having a kitty to run to is things fall apart. Having an accountability partner (like the way couples get a ‘best couple’) to stand beside you and cheer you on.I had shared on networking earlier.
You can see the post by checking the previous post on the blog.
This is my main point.
INVESTING IN SELF:
When life is busy happening, you need to keep equipping yourself. As you wake up every morning to your hustle, take time and feed your soul.
Here are three ways simple ways to do so:
- USE WORDS:
Do not deprive yourself of encouragement. Many people are quick to curse themselves when they fail on a task or a venture. They say “I am so stupid”, “how careless of me”, and on and on they go.
How many times do you encourage yourself? Do you tell yourself? “This is great! Am proud of myself”, “I deserved a pat on the back”.
Don’t underestimate the power of words. They can edify or kill you. Without going too deep into the spiritual arena, just try it. Compliment someone, tell them “I like your haircut” or your shoe, or “you look so young today”. Watch the results.
We like being pampered with words, they fuel our souls. Before these words come from others, they should come from “you to yourself” with love.
There’s no end to learning. Read widely and wisely. Choose your sources carefully as there’s so much corruption today. Integrity is becoming rare each day.
Select books are written by people who uphold family values and general welfare. Follow them on social media and read their posts.
Search for EBooks, consume as much as you can. You will not only be building yourself but helping others as when you speak, you will have lots of wisdom to share.
- ACKNOWLEDGE CORRECTION
There are people who take rebuke too personally such that you flinch at the thought of collecting them.
When people point to you areas of weakness; don’t overreact. Take it calmly and use it to reinvent yourself and become a better version of you.
People don’t always use the right words to tell you what you need to improve, take it easy.
Several months ago I was entering Tuskys to shop then a Swahili woman tapped me on the back and told me. “I am selling belly reduction oil. I can see you have a very big tummy; you need it”.
No one ever put it that way before, even when I was a few weeks post birth. That really got me but I didn’t buy her product of course. I felt she was too plain plus I don’t use products I am not sure of their origin.
This ‘insult’ accelerated my desire to exercise. Instead of walking twice a week, I started walking daily, instead of ten sit-ups a day, I started doing twenty. This has really helped me in losing post-natal weight and getting me back to my desired weight of 60kgs.
You can choose to be bitter or better, you have no control over how other people choose their words, but you have control over how you respond.
- WORK ON YOUR CHARACTER
There’s no easy way to self-discipline, you just have to sacrifice to achieve it. When I joined the company I am working for, I was so psyched about work, I would never get late.
Then I got into the system and became complacent. I would arrive even half an hour late. Needless to say, my supervisor and I didn’t cope too well.
Years later, I was seating in his position, demanding people to report on time. It was not an easy task.
I can’t pride in being a perfect time keeper but I have worked on my time tremendously. The fact that I hate waiting for someone keeps me on my toes and makes me want to be there on time for them too.
I can proudly say that over 90% of my workdays, I report in time. I am still working on this.
There are other areas of improvement for example; language. There’s a culture of cursing today, people keep on using unnecessary crude words. Intentionally use clean language and earn respect.
- HAVE YOUR OWN VALUES
Check any successful venture; they all have values that guide them. Most of them actually hang them in a pronounced place for all stakeholders to see.
What are your values?
If you haven’t come up with your list, please do.
There are many influences in life; wealth, poverty, friends, places, religion etc. When you are the determining factor of which course to take, go back to your values. Let them be your shield.
I came up with mine after an interview many years ago. The question came up and I had nothing cemented to say. Of course, I acted like I had it all setup but that became my wake up call.
There’s nothing freaky about having self-life guiding principles. Just get some.
Life is just but a journey. Never forget that.
Always look at every season from the sunshine side of view because cloudy days come and go. Do not carry baggage around. Leave the past where it belongs and face the future with courage.
Make today count. Do not let it go to waste.
This post was inspired by Peter Odanga; Certified International coach and director of Proxy A’ International.
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